Dating a bpd woman
In this age of dynamic information, there is often a strange dichotomy framing mental health.
Access to lived examples via blogs and social media means people are chipping away at stigmas every day.
The central issue is that BPD is based around feelings.More specifically, people who are living with it experience emotions a lot more strongly than people who don’t. Bone-aching fury when your clothes horse doesn’t open, so you throw it at the wall, which makes a hole you never get around to filling in.If that sounds intractable, it’s because it really is. Or intense sensitivity to criticism, like when you don’t receive the mark you want for a university essay, so you accept a full-time job on the other side of the country, starting immediately. Here’s another fun game — try guessing how these situations go down when you’re dating.BPD In Pop Culture While there are few apt, direct portrayals of BPD in broad society, representations manage to creep into common consciousness through TV, film, and music, leaving the public, at least subconsciously, more aware of the disorder than they may realize.Even I managed to read Susanna Kaysen’s memoir (perhaps more commonly recognized in its 1999 Winona Ryder filmic reimagining) twice and didn’t glean that it was ostensibly describing what I had.While these representations are regularly problematic, there are some that seize the essence of BPD and help to communicate its existence, flattering or otherwise.Perhaps most pointedly, there is the psycho ex-girlfriend trope.Primarily embraced by various forms of media (check its extensive TV Tropes page), it also manifests itself in everyday life.The trope lambasts women for having emotions, existing mostly to invalidate feelings and to over-exaggerate the reaction women have for not accepting being ghosted, played, or treated poorly.When it comes to Borderline Personality Disorder, the trope is a prime example of the ways in which women suffering from the condition are dismissed out of hand for experiencing emotions that may be extreme, but that are nonetheless valid.People diagnosed with BPD are as much as three times more likely to be women than men, which doesn’t help with the inherent misogyny surrounding how people think about the condition.