My international friends from university asked me today to explain how dating works in Sweden.Apparently they have trouble getting into the rules of the Swedish dating game.One of the most common places to find a partner is at a nightclub (or a mutual friend’s party), which may seem pretty obvious.However, the way to meet someone there is more subtle.It’s not as easy as going up to someone and offer them a drink or ask them to dance.Many people see this as too forward and will get defensive if they are approached in this way.So how do people approach one another when they go out?If you want to meet someone, you’d better make your way to the dance floor.
From the moment the two of you start dancing, the rules aren’t as strict as before.
Depending on your moves and all-around charm, you might just share that one dance, or you might even spend the night together.
Either way, the chances are good that you’ll exchange phone numbers, which is crucial for the next step.
Assuming that things went well at the club, sometime in the next few days one of you (it might just as well be the girl as the boy) will text the other and ask them out for a The fact that both of you are aware that you’re on a date while simultaneously pretending that it’s not a date can make things quite awkward, but that’s how it’s done.
To keep the conversation non-datish, the subjects you talk about are usually very neutral ones such as the housing market, Stockholm versus Gothenburg, how great your i Phones are, or how much the public transportation system irritates you (actually, the Swedish public transportation system is among the best ones in the world).