Muslim women dating non muslim women
As much as I love sharing my dating stories, there are a lot of experiences that I haven't had. I was 11 years old at the time, and very naive in my understanding about the faith.That's why, as part of It’s Not You, I'll be talking to people with a broad range of experiences to see how things are different — and how they're the same. I didn’t understand the politics of what 9/11 meant, and it was just a very tough time for Muslims in general.Of course, these individuals don’t speak for entire demographics, but they do provide some insight into the nuances of the very human search for love and connection. During my teenage years, I came to an awakening about what it means for me to be a Muslim. I don’t understand — people have been married for centuries.
Because there’s nothing higher than a spiritual relationship and a true spiritual connection. And it’s important for me to know that, in the good times, we’re pulling from the same spiritual toolbox.For example, Ramadan just ended, and just to know that the guy that I’m seeing is going to want to go to the mosque with me.Not just wanting to go to the mosque with me, but is going to be the one to be like, ‘Hey, I’m going to the mosque for these late night prayers. ’”This isn’t the same, but I relate to those feelings when it comes to the prospect of kids, since I’d never get into a long-term relationship with someone who doesn’t want to have children.You want someone who is going to be able to enjoy sharing these experiences with you.And as much as a Christian guy might be able to support you, they’ll never really know what you’re going through.“Exactly. But if a guy is Muslim, he’s very quick to bring it up.So now it’s like, where the fuck do you find a handsome, attractive, intelligent, emotionally sensitive, family-oriented Muslim? As a woman, it’s already hard to find someone who is not a scum bag. When you’re dating, how does the topic of religion come up? He might just say ‘As-Salaam-Alaikum’ [“Now, if the guy isn’t Muslim, it’s just kind of easier to tell.It can’t be true, but it feels like there are way less men then there are women.”I mean, I live in New York City, and I feel like that all the time. Because the initial conversation is about anything else in the world aside from the religion.And then, maybe during the third or fourth conversation, it comes up.”I just have to tell them! They just don’t know the depths and the gravity of what that means and what they’d really commit to.I am at this point in my life where I would love to build a family and settle down. And men who are like that, you’re just like, Oh yes. I’m 27 years old, and I feel like I’ve just calibrated my fuckboy meter. If they don’t advocate dating, then what happens if you meet someone? I do want to reiterate that ‘American dating’ is totally against Islamic standards.If nothing else, I just want something that has substance and is meaningful. You’re not even supposed to be touching somebody of the opposite sex.So I do tell the guy, ‘Hey I’m looking for something a little more serious, and I only want to date a Muslim man.’ And some guys are like, ‘I can convert! You’re just saying that because you have rose-colored glasses on right now.’”You have! Those intimate forms of touch are just meant for your husband or your family members or whatever, and not just for strangers.” So this guy, whatever, dream boat, finally comes and takes that next step.