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Most of us will have at least one, if not a few, significant relationships during our lifetime.Our first intimate encounters may be more difficult or challenging because we're new to the experience of forming an intimate bond with another person, and may not really know what we’re doing and what to expect.But time and experience should help us navigate through future relationships in a much better way.It’s essential to get to know in every possible way before you move into a committed relationship.Often, individuals go in search of a relationship without this essential knowledge.But how can you ever hope to know another individual if you don’t know yourself first?How can you address another’s needs and desires if you're disconnected from your own?
A really good exercise I ask my clients to do is to write down every partner they’ve had a significant relationship with, and then, for each, answer questions such as: What attracted you to this person initially? Was your fantasy about this person—what you imagined or assumed to be true—validated in reality? Did revelations during the course of the relationship change your mind? Do any patterns, similarities from relationship to other relationships, emerge?Learn to ask the hard questions out of the gate, the first or second time you meet someone, before opinions are solidly formed.Most of us seem to do much better when we have no real expectations of someone, because we hardly know who they are and are not yet trying to impress them.And watch for red flags—indicators that something needs to be questioned or otherwise validated.Often these are clues that something may be trouble in the future.Here are 10 key relational red flags to look out for: A red flag is a good intuitive image to help you process what you’re really feeling.At the end of a difficult relationship, people often say, “He (or she) told me who he (or she) was at the very beginning, but I just didn’t listen.” Whenever I read an article that claims you should be concerned if your partner wants to separate you from your friends or family, I feel there should be a lot of clarification.My last partner accused me of trying to separate him from his friends.Of course, the friends I was trying to separate him from were the women that were calling at , the women he used to sleep with that still act like they have something with him, the 'friends' (female) he visited at their place, alone (I was specifically uninvited) to play guitar. Of course, he later ends up sleeping with these women.Or the female friend who was also friends with his ex-wife (with whom I got along great, by the way) and every time I was around, the friend gave me the silent treatment or exclude me from the conversation (which of course my partner never noticed) This guy would swear I tried to separate him from his friends.That is why articles discussing this issue, without any clarification, can cause more damage than not.