Renaissance courtship dating
Instead of enjoying their teen years as they build skills and character, they are getting distracted into the quagmire of relationships which they are not equipped to conduct.The teen years are those where they have the fewest responsibilities at the same time as having their greatest energy level. They should be an opportunity to develop a deep, intimate and personal walk with God, establishing themselves as young warriors who know the Father and have overcome the evil one (1 John ).Unfortunately, however, our culture teaches our singles to engage in multiple dating relationships as though it were a normal and useful practice.The truth is, the modern dating system has only been around for less than a century.And it is my conviction that the worldly system of dating, as it is currently conducted by most people, is far from God's original plan, as described in the Bible.I intend to expose the flaws I see in today's dating model, and at the same time point out how Biblical courtship addresses these flaws.As Christians, our primary purpose in life is to seek and serve God, and fulfill our destiny in Him. We need to find out what God's plan for relationships is, and then follow it. Let's study what we are doing now against what God has described in His word, and draw up a new standard. Other terms, such as 'betrothal' or even 'biblical dating' could be used, although they would possibly be confusing.The current model that we are using is ineffective, at best. Dating was invented in the early part of this century.
Courtship, which I intend to discuss further in this series of articles, seeks to fulfill the Godly model described in the Bible, which was conducted by God's people up until the invention of dating.My basic premise is that regardless of how we feel about things, we should follow God's model, because it will be the most effective and fulfilling.My intention is to convey that conviction, then to describe my current understanding of His model.In overview, courting should only happen once and ends in a life-long covenant relationship.Dating happens lots of times, and ends in many hurts, heartbreaks, scars, and if you're lucky, a partner that just may stay with you for the next few years, or (if you're really lucky) the rest of your life.In the modern dating scene you usually hide all your faults to give a false impression about yourself, in order to keep your partner liking you.Recreational dating is about self- gratification you date to satisfy your own needs.Courtship is about open and honest exploration of each others lives and families leading up to engagement and marriage.Courtship is about marriage you court in order to see if there is any reason why you shouldn't get married.There is no romantic interaction until after the commitment to marriage.Courtship is a word that has been adopted to describe a biblical model for the relationship leading up to marriage.